Rage and Control

To complete this assignment successfully, you should:

1. Take the self assessment on hostility and reflect on the findings.
2. Study the chart for handling anger.
3. Fill in your Name and Email address
4. Send Email to confirm completion
   
   
5. Tally up 's for completion of this assignment.

Click on these objects. Each leads to areas on the web for personal reflection and returning to inner peace.

Although we have amassed an enormous body of knowledge and a mastery of the external world, we have neglected exploring the internal world.

-Robert Ornstein

Fight / Flight Hostility Questionnaire

Directions: Fill this out as honestly as possible. You need not share the score with others.

1. A person drives by my yard with the car stereo blaring acid rock. A. I wonder if the driver is ruining his hearing. B. I can feel my blood pressure starting to rise.
2. The person who cuts my hair trims off more than I wanted. A.. I tell him or her what a lousy job he or she did. B . I figure it'll grow back, and I resolve to give my instructions more forcefully next time.
3. I am in the express checkout line at the supermarket, where a sign reads: "No more than 10 items, please!" A. I pick up a magazine to pass the time. B. I glance ahead to see if anyone has more than ten items.
4. Many large cities have a visible number of homeless people. A. I believe that the homeless are down and out because they lack ambition. B. The homeless are victims of illness or some other misfortune.
5. There have been times when I was very angry with someone. A. I was always able to stop short of hitting them. B. I have, on occasion, hit or shoved them.
6. The newspaper contains a prominent news story about drug related crime. A. I wish the government had better educational/drug programs, even for pushers. B. I wish we could put every drug pusher away for good.
7. The prevalence of AIDS has reached alarming proportions. A. This is largely the result of irresponsible behavior on the part of a small group of the population. B. AIDS is a major tragedy.
8. I sometimes argue with a friend or relative A. I find profanity an effective tool. B. I hardly ever use profanity.
9. I am stuck in a traffic jam. A. I usually am not particularly upset. B. I quickly start to feel irritated and annoyed.
10. There is a really important job to be done. A. I prefer to do it myself. B. I am apt to call on my friends or coworkers to help.
11. Sometimes I keep my angry feelings to myself. A. Doing so can often prevent me from making a mountain out of a molehill. B. Doing so is usually a bad idea.
12. Another driver butts ahead of me in traffic. A. I usually flash my lights or honk my horn. B. I stay farther back behind such a driver.
13. Someone treats me unfairly. A. I usually forget it rather easily. B. I am apt to keep thinking about it for hours.
14. The cars ahead of me on an unfamiliar road start to slow and stop as they approach a curve. A. I assume that there is a construction site ahead. B. I assume someone ahead had a fender bender.
15. Someone expresses an ignorant belief. A. I try to correct him or her. B. I am likely to let it pass.
16. I am caught in a slow moving bank or supermarket line. A. I usually start to fume at people who dawdle ahead of me. B. I seldom notice the wait.
17. Someone is being rude or annoying. A. I am apt to avoid him or her in the future. B. I might have to straight them out.
18. An election year roles around. A. I learn anew that politicians are not to be trusted. B. I am caught up in the excitement of pulling for my candidate.
19. An elevator stops too long on a floor above where I am waiting. A. I soon start to feel irritated and annoyed. B. I start planning the rest of my day.
20. I am around someone I don't like. A. I try to end the encounter as soon as p[possible. B. I find it hard not to be rude to him or her.
21. I see a very overweight person working down the street. A. I wonder why this person has such little self-control. B. I think that he or she might have a hard time walking.
22. I am riding as a passenger in the front seat of a car. A. I take the opportunity to enjoy the scenery. B. I try to stay alert for obstacles ahead.
23. Someone criticizes something I have done. A. I feel annoyed. B. I try to decide whether the criticism is justified.
24. I am involved in an argument. A. I concentrate hard so that I can get my point across. B. I can feel my heart pounding and I breathe harder.
25. A friend or coworker disagrees with me. A. I try to explain my position clearly. B. I am apt to get into an argument with him or her.
26. Someone is speaking very slowly during a conversation. A. I am apt to finish his or her sentences. B. I am apt to listen until s/he finishes.
27. If they were put on the horn system, most wouldn't sneak into a movie theater without paying. A. That's because they are afraid of being caught. B. It's because it would be wrong.
28. I have strong beliefs about rearing children. A. I try to reward mine when they behave well. B. I make sure they know what the rules are.
29. I hear news of another terrorist attack. A. I feel like lashing out. B. I wonder how people can be so cruel.
30. I am talking with my dearest friend. A. I often find my thoughts racing ahead to what I plan to say next. B. I find it easy to pay close attention to what he or she is saying.
31. There have been times in the past when I was really angry. A. I have never thrown things or slammed a door. B. At times I have thrown something or slammed a door.
32. Life is full of little annoyances. A. They often seem to get under my skin. B. They seem to roll off my back unnoticed.
33. I disapprove of something a friend has done. A. I usually keep such disapproval to myself. B. I usually let him or her know about it.
34. I am requesting a seat assignment for an airline flight. A. I usually request a seat in a specific area of the plane. B. I generally leave the choice to the agent.
35. I feel a certain way nearly every day of the week. A. I feel grouchy some of the time. B. I usually stay on an even keel.
36. Someone bumps into me at the store. A. I pass it off as an accident. B. I feel irritated at the person's clumsiness.
37. Someone around me is preparing a meal. A. I keep an eye out to make sure nothing burns or cooks too long. B. I either talk with them or find something else to do.
38. A friend calls at the last minute to say that s/he is too tired to go out tonight and I am stuck with expensive tickets. A. I try to find someone else to go with me. B. I tell my friend just how inconsiderate s/he is.
39. I recall something that angered me previously. A. I feel angry all over again. B. The memory doesn't bother me nearly as much as the actually event did.
40. I see people walking around in shopping malls. A. Many of them are either shopping or exercising. B. Many are wasting time.
41. Someone is hogging the conversation at a party. A. I look for an opportunity to put him or her down. B. I move to another group.
42. At times I have to work with incompetent people. A. I concentrate on my part of the job. B. Having to put up with them ticks me off.
43. My spouse, boyfriend or girlfriend is going to get me a birthday present. A. I prefer to pick it out myself. B. I prefer to be surprised.
44. I hold a poor opinion of someone. A. I keep it to myself. B. I let others know about it.
45. In most arguments I have, the roles are consistent. A. I am the angrier one. B. The other person is angrier than I am.
46. Slow-moving lines can often be found in banks and supermarkets. A. They are an unavoidable part of modern life. B. They are often due to someone's incompetence.

Key: 0 - 3 = low 4 - 6 = borderline 7 - + = consider making a personal change

Hostility _____________ Anger _____________ Aggression _____________

Total _____________

* * If the total score is more than 10, it would also be healthful to consider ways to increase your self awareness, sense of well-being and outlets for success. You may need to spend more time with people who like to be nice to you and appreciate who you are as well as what you are doing. Remember to be one of those people.

The following is a flow chart to help you think about dealing constructively with anger and lowering your stress level when you have too much going at once or become frustrated with life events.

 

Sometimes, when we are far from home, when the school environment stretches ahead and behind for eons, we can become lonely, feel out of place and like others are controlling our lives and in large part, our destiny. We can get so busy juggling the needs and demands of others, that we lose track of a sense of self, joy, peace. If you feel like that, you can always turn around and do something kind and supportive for someone very important and special -- you could be good to yourself.

Many students finish course work and come back to talk about what it is like to teach. Most of them said that they thought college was a busy time, but were shocked to find out how much busier they were once they were teaching. Why is this important? We often promise ourselves a change, a break, a less busy time when today is done -- but it is today when we need to take care -- to find fulfillment, to be at peace.

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